Sunday, May 24, 2009

21 and single.. ever since.

It's true. I'm single, I cant say I'm happy nor can I say that im not satisfied. That's because I've never known what's it like to not be single. it's just so weird that people make a big fuss out of it. Minsan kinekwestyon pa nila ang gender preference ko--

Tomboy ka ba?

Toot. Nakakfrustrate. Sa una sasabihin nila "Imposible! sa ganda mong yan?" (nagbubuhat na ng bangko). Sa huli, binibigyan na nila ako ng unsolicited advice tulad ng dapat daw open ako at baka daw masyadong mataas ang standards, at kung sino dapat ang pipiliin ko. Maybe Im a little picky. Pero in making choices kahit na ka-date lang, you have to make the best choice. Hindi yung pipili ka lang just to try it kundi pipili ka because you mean it. Kaya i'd just like to repeat -- your advice is unsolicited.

My point: I am perfectly content with just myself right now. Being single doesnt mean i'm lonely.
Walang hang-ups ang pagiging single. Nagtataka nga ako sa mga friends ko na tinatakasan lang ang mga magulang pag may gimik pero kailangan pa magpaalam sa boyfriend. Bakit? Bakit??

Pakiramdam ko, hindi pa talaga ako handa sa mga commitments ng isang relationship. Nageenjoy ako pag nakakaalis mag isa (sure ka ba,ate?). Na wala munang masyadong inaaalala kundi ang pamilya ko at career na hindi ko pa masyadong ma-handle. I know that there's so much that's happening right now and I feel that if I do enter in a relationship, it would be a affected if not baka maging disaster pa.

Teka why am I even explaining? Para tuloy naging official statement 'to.

Anyway, in my mylot page, i made a question similar to this (im 21 and single ever since.. is that odd?) I loved the responses that those lovely mylotters gave me.

"No, it's not strange and don't let anyone make you feel that
you need to be in a relationship in order to be happy. You're still young,
you still have things to do and you're still growing and changing. " -spalladino
"The fact that you didn't have a boyfriend till now only means that
you value yourself so much that when you found the 'one', you want him to be
the 'only one'. Don't think about it so much. Love will find you for sure." - anneshirley
" Having a relationship is not a requirement for being a complete
being. This is not strange as we have our own preference, and we opt to
follow our paths. You are only 21! That is a relatively young age... so, no
rush. Learn from other people and build a meaningful relationship with
minimal errors and hurt."
- TheManager24
Just sharing. What do you feel about this?

18 comments:

RJ said...

Napi-pressure ka siguro sa mga sinasabi nilang unsolicited advice kaya ka naglabas ng official statement mo.

Bata ka pa naman, ayos lang kung single ka. Sabi nila hindi daw 'yan hinahanap, kusang dumarating.

saul krisna said...

hmmmm being single is not that bad... daming advantages ang pagiging single.... wag ka mag pa apekto sa mga sinasabi nila... hahahaa.... walang pakialaman di ba? by the way i really love reading your post

Thess said...

Not odd at all. I had my first serious relationship when i was 22 and then at 34 and now been single again for almost 3 years at di pa naman ako namamatay out of loneliness.

Believe me, it's better to be picky and to choose well than get hurt or marry the VERY WRONG guy.

tiago said...

Ditto everything everyone said :)

dianne said...

It's not actually waiting for the right moment or the right time or the right circumstance.. it's your choice. To live that way... I look up to you.. :) And the way it goes implies you do value yourself...

Being single isn't odd. :) It's just making way for finer things... Don't rush yourself like what those people around you are doing.. Things will fall into their places, somehow.. :) Right?

great blog.

sendzki said...

kk...apir..haha nothing's wrong with being single..but recently...im wanting to have a girlfriend hahaha...NGSB here haha

Pipi said...

hey flor. thanks for dropping by. alam mo, believe me, sometimes it's okay na maging single.. i have been with different people already since i was 16 and never akong naging single... 5 days lang ata, ever. then dumating din yung time na may someone in between sa isang relationship ko. well, don't get me wrong ha. but sometimes, you have to save yourself for "the ONE"! if i had that choice at hindi ako nagpasaway and hindi matigas ulo ko, i should've waited for "the ONE". it's okay to be single girl, much better if you feel complete even if you're single. that's ultimate happiness.

:) you are perfectly normal :D

posh_post said...

hay...ok lang yan. 24 ako nag boyfriend. sa asawa ko ngayon. :D

http://www.marriagemarkers.blogspot.com

eloiski said...

ay naku ate!
wag kang mag-alala!
mas masaya maging single!
hakhak! walang worries.
walang masyadong iniisip!
FREEDOM IS YOURS!

batang narS said...

hahahaha..pareho pla tayo!apir naman dyan..many pipol wud ask me d same questions as urs.haha.

**its wrth d w8 sis.

but n d end, its stl a choice..wag lng ipressure ang mga selves natin:D

flor said...

rj: naniniwala din ako sa sinabi mo, mas maganda talaga na bigla na lang darating yan, exciting..

saul krisna: sabi nga ni janina, i shouldnt feel any pressure right now. salama sa encouragements

thess: totoo yan. nakakatakot nang maginvest sa isang relationship na madali lang masira, thanks thess

diane: thank you for saying that you look up to me for my choice. that 's a great encouragement!


pipi: thank so much for sharing your experience. may natutunan ako especially from someone who had a been thru a lot of relationships like you. i do feel that i am saving my self for the one

sendzki: uy ngsb.. naiisip mo ba naiisip ko..joke..

posh post: yesss. 21 pa lang ako, 3 years to go

elioski: totoo ka friend. free na free nga :-)

batang nars: yesss. may kaparehas na ko, tama lets not pressure ourselves friend. it truly is worth the wait

canky.is.me said...

wag ka magpapressure sa mga nasa paligid mo.;) chances are u'll always end up with the wrong ones. enjoy dear!;)

tcf said...

not odd at all. cheers! :)
check this out:
http://www.imeem.com/sivaslax/blogs/2007/09/18/go6QeDuT/the-missing-piece-by-shel-silverstein

it's a perfect allegory about how people make, break relationships. ahahah

flor said...

@ tcf: hi tcf! thank you for leaving that link! that was thoughtful of you!

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Anonymous said...

walang masama maging single. pero minsan nga ay masarap na meron kang best friend at lover din at the same time. pero dont rush dahil darating din yun surprise daw eh! tsaka, di ka mapili, baka inaantay mo lang yun may spark, pag wala spark wag na kasi parang pinilit mo lang. malaman mo din kung inlove ka na. lovingly yours, ate joe da mango.

Mareeyah said...

Ok lang yan. Ako nga, maganda naman, matalino, mabait, at talented (eto ayon lahat sa mga kaibigan ko), pero dahil siguro sa lahat ng ito, intimidating. Ayun, 29 nang nagka BF ng totoo, pero ok lang kasi malapit na TM date namin. Sulit din, di ba? :-D

Flor said...

hi Mareeyah, it's been so long since i re-read this post... TM means.. temple marriage? congratulations!

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